These are my favourite quotes about love for this week. I am very good at changing my mind about the things I like, and aside from mum's cooking, not much has remained on my list of favourites for too long.
I read often; I read a lot, and I have a weird ability to remember what I read, but I have chosen these five love snippets for their simplicity in delivery as much as their profundity.
I'll get right to it.
1 "You think you'll never love like that again until you do, and you are sure you've never loved like this before."
I don't know the origin of this quote, but I can remember hearing it from a girl with whom I had a short fling in my early twenties. We worked together in a newspaper delivery verification center, a glorified telemarketing operation from where we called subscribers to a local paper to verify that they received the publication, and to offer additional services. Christina had ended a relationship months before our acquaintance, and I was intrigued by the sway of her hips.
We shared a sweet period of intimacy that ended as softly as it began. It was nice. I remember Christina, and this quote often.
2 "We accept the love we think we deserve."
-- Stephen Chbosky
I love the truth this short quote addresses. Indeed, we can only see the love that reflects on how we perceive ourselves, our self-worth, our self-love determine our choices in life, and passion revolves around those choices.
3 “It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not.”
--Andre Gide, Autumn Leaves
If Niccolo Machiavelli had published an article about his favourite quotes, this would make the top of the list. I cannot disagree with the meaning and the dire honesty it relies on to deliver its message. I know that false happiness is a disturbing sadness and false love is more demeaning and offensive than hate.
3 “It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.”
-- Friedrich Nietzsche
Psychology tells us that the three most common reasons marriages fail are time, sex, and money. This quote is relevant to the time aspect of romantic failure - time well-spent is necessary to create strong bonds in any relationship, and marriage is not the exception. The point is to prioritise these three components of a happy marriage without sacrificing any of them.
4 “Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”
-- Lao Tzu
I hope I don't have to explain why I feel this quote deeply. I have known the love that makes me want to do anything and everything for another person. And this level of love isn't always romantic - I have no children of my own; still, my niece and nephews are important enough for me to want to do anything necessary to ensure their wellbeing.
5 “Above all, don't lie to yourself. The man who lies to himself and listens to his own lie comes to a point that he cannot distinguish the truth within him, or around him, and so loses all respect for himself and for others. And having no respect he ceases to love.”
-- Fyodor Dostoevsky, The Brothers Karamazov
The underlying premise of my book The 8-13 Project, Book 1, is that self-deception is an obstacle to a good and successful life. We cannot experience truth whilst living a lie.
Thank you for reading.